| One thing we can be sure of in this world is our need to connect with others. As society and our lives get further fragmented, humans are constantly in search of new ways to connect with each other; through social utilities like Facebook and MySpace, as well as internet and speed dating. Unfortunately, with a society set up for personal gratification and acquisition, we can easily get disconnected without even realizing it. As with any problem, it needs to be identified before it can be fixed. Here are some common behaviors and emotions that indicate you're feeling disconnected: Habitual lateness, sarcasm, looking for problems, preoccupation with your own thoughts, overworking, name-calling, drinking/using drugs, lying, blaming, perfectionism, being a people pleaser, impatience, overspending, being judgemental, withholding affection, keeping secrets, being bossy, procrastinating. When we engage in these behaviors, we are disconnecting or losing touch with the people our behaviors are being projected upon, as well as ourselves. When we're constantly late, we are not respecting the time of those who are waiting for us. When we're sarcastic, we are trying to mask our true feelings by using "humour". When we over-work, we stop listening to our own body and mind's needs. When we lie, we're keeping a wall around us. When we drink or do drugs, probably the most direct way to disconnect, we create an illusion, a world that is "easier" to be in than reality. |
